6 easy steps.
Our process begins with getting to know you. Then using our signature matchmaking process that we’ve fine-tuned over the past 25 years, we create a dating experience personalized just for you. Because, in the end, meeting someone face-to-face is the only way to see if sparks fly.
We get to know you.
It all starts with a phone call – a confidential conversation during which one of our dating specialists can answer your questions and give you more details about the It’s Just Lunch dating process. Then it’s our job to get to know you. We’ll learn what you’re looking for in a potential partner, what’s worked for you in past relationships and – just as importantly – what hasn’t worked. We’ll ask about your relationship goals, personal interests, hobbies and more. And not to worry, we’ll make it as easy as possible.
Selecting your matches isn’t just our job; it’s our passion.
We combine our matchmaker’s intuition with the information and feedback we’ve gathered from you in our conversations: what’s important to you, what’s worked, what hasn’t. All to help us find you the right match. Our matchmakers are committed to knowing their clients, not just on paper, but on a true human level thanks to our regular interaction and communication with you. Once we’ve selected your match, we’ll call and share with you details about who we’ve chosen. We will always respect your confidentiality and only share your first name and never reveal your address, last name, phone number, email address or where you work.
Meet your date face-to-face.
We believe the only way to tell if you have chemistry with someone is to meet face-to-face, so we’ll arrange a low-pressure lunch date for you and your match. Think of us as your dating concierge and leave the details to us. Our matchmaking team will arrange everything, including the time and place – and we’ll even make the confirmation call. And if lunch dates don’t work for your schedule, no problem. We’ll happily arrange after-work drinks or even a weekend brunch. Our goal is to always create an environment that makes getting to know your match as easy and as fun as possible.
Call us with feedback after your date.
If you make plans to get together again with your date – or if you even think they may be “the one” – GREAT! But no matter how your date goes, it’s important you give us your feedback, impressions, likes and dislikes, etc. This is an essential part of the IJL matchmaking process. From everything you tell us, we’ll fine-tune your future matches, as we’re always looking to improve your It’s Just Lunch experience.
Put your membership on hold if sparks flew.
Sparks? Great! Contact your matchmaker to let them know you are going to give your new relationship some time to blossom. Of course, not every match is a success. But we know our signature dating approach will renew your excitement and optimism about finding someone special, and we’ll be ready to stack the odds well back in your favor. So, no sparks? No problem. We’ll get to work arranging your next match.
By choosing It’s Just Lunch, you’ve opened yourself to a world of new possibilities you might never have thought of or expected. After 25 years of helping singles find each other, we know that having someone on your team helping you navigate the complex world of gay dating is a surefire way to getting you closer to real chemistry. And that the real fun is seeing how things click face-to-face.
You’re right. Having fun isn’t really a step in our process, but we hope to make it a big part of everything you experience with It’s Just Lunch. Matchmaking is equal parts art, craft, experience and instinct. And if we’ve learned anything in our many years, the best approach to dating is to have fun at every step and enjoy the adventure of meeting someone new.